Each day this month I will be answering one question from these December Journal Prompts.
Day 8: What do you wish you did more of this year?
It’s hard to imagine jamming more things into this year! I’ve had so many wonderful experiences and have thoroughly enjoyed the journey! But still, here’s a list of three small things that perhaps I could have approached with a bit more intentionality this year.
I wish that I had taken more time to hang out with other moms and their kids this year. We had a very full year and got up to all kinds of fun adventures as a family, but a good portion of my time was still spent at home, laser-focused on maintaining a schedule and sense of order. In some ways I think this was very healthy for me—it meant that I got enough sleep, took care of my self, and was even able to maintain an involvement in some of the things that I love doing. But it also meant sacrificing some time that I could have spent investing into other relationships.
A few of my recent blogs have discussed the fact that my natural inclination is to gravitate more towards tasks than relationships, so it makes sense that this is how I spent my year. And it’s not that I regret it, but perhaps I could have had an even more fulfilling experience if I had allowed myself to branch out a little bit more and make some meaningful connections with other moms.
2. Family Video Chats
This is yet another example of how I gravitate to tasks over relationships! I was so busy this year figuring out how to just get all the stuff done. Don’t even talk to me right now about the routine chores that should be happening in every home, because the things on a baby to-do list alone are enough to drive a person crazy. Bathe the baby, put lotion on the baby, give the baby her vitamin D drops, make sure the baby has tummy time, nurse the baby a million times a day, put the baby down for her naps… pick up the baby and rock her when she doesn’t want to nap without you, teach the baby to eat solid food, follow the baby around like a chicken with its head cut off once the baby starts crawling, clean up after the baby, clean up after the baby again… and the list goes on.
Nonetheless, in and among all this chaos, I wish that I had stopped more often for even just a quick video call with family. We did it occasionally, but not as much as we should have. It’s hard living far away from your loved ones, especially when you have kids. I want my children to grow up knowing their grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, but if that’s going to happen, I will have to make a more concerted effort in the future to foster these relationships outside of the in-person visits that only happen a few times a year. In hindsight, I wish I had done a better job of starting this in Avra’s first year of life.
I wish that I had taken more time to invest into my musical interests this year. Music has always been an important part of my identity, but it is also something that I have struggled to make much time for in the last number of years. You’d think that working in a church would provide me with plenty of opportunities to use my musical abilities. But it turns out that leading a team of over 100 volunteers in a large children’s ministry environment on Sunday mornings doesn’t leave a whole lot of time for anything else.
In the back of my mind, I had hoped that being on maternity leave this year would make it possible for me to slightly increase my musical involvements at church. On the contrary, I probably only managed to join the band for 2 or 3 Sunday mornings all year, which is about average for me. I also imagined myself creating some of my own music this year, as well as doing lots of intentional activities to foster a musical interest in Avra. It’s not like this never happened at all, but looking back, I wish I had made it a bit more of a priority. Maybe next year!
On another note, if you’ve been following along with my journey through these awesome December Journal Prompts, I’d love to hear from you! Which of the questions has stuck out most to you so far? Have you done any of your own reflection as a result? Leave me a comment or send me a message through my contact page and let me know!